I think the authors have some really great insights in this chapter. All of you who teach 4 to 6 year olds, know how difficult it can be when a child is throwing a temper tantrum or has decided to "shut down" and not move. No matter how hard the teacher tries, the misbehaving child is holding the classroom hostage by thier behavior. Teaching a child how to regulate thier emotional self is a cruical part to early childhood education. It is an unfortunate reality, that children who come to you emotionally immature are frequently the same children who do not do well in school. I'm sure as you read the authors words, a specific situation or child's face surfaced in your mind. It does not come as a shock to learn that these inappropriate coping skills are learned through poor parenting. Many times I feel that first we need to teach the parents before we can find success with thier child. the key is establishing a relationship with the adults. Once again, the authors stress the importance of talking with students about thier feelings and teaching them that they have a choice to thier reactions.
I, also, thought the sections on praise were thought provoking. Although, I think it is unrealistic to expect 4 or 5 year olds to make good choices for intrinsic reasons. I do agree with the authors that empty praise is ineffective and non-productive. Commending children for effort and perserverance is much more long lasting and a lifelong coping skill.